All the advice I have been given so far from mothers about mothering.

  • Spend time alone because you won’t get much of it again.
  • Spend time with your partner because you won’t get much of it again.
  • Don’t spend time researching SIDS, deformities, food not to eat when pregnant, how much weight is a normal amount to gain in the first trimester? Or anything else fear based on the Internet.
  • Listen to advice from other moms.
  • Don’t listen to advice from other moms.
  •  Mozart’s music every day will create a grounded child. Also, listen to music of your ancestors.
  • You have already begun parenting. You are being a mom right now.
  • If you feel depressed or disbelief or hateful that is okay.
  • Everything you feel changes. Your entire life will change. You will be happy about this.
  • Read Birthing from Within.
  • Don’t read that stupid Birthing from Within book.
  • Read as much as you can about post partum depression.
  • Smoke a bit of pot. Lot’s of cultures do. It’s totally fine.
  • Now you get to experience really loving something for the first time.
  • You are embarking on an 18-year spiritual retreat.
  • It’s the worst and best thing I have ever done.
  • Don’t get a mom bob.
  • Don’t eat soy unless you want to have a hermaphrodite.
  • Don’t eat chocolate.
  • Don’t eat bacon.
  • Don’t eat non-pasteurized cheese.
  • Don’t eat sushi.
  • Eat whatever you want to. It’s the only time in a woman’s life she gets to really pig out.
  • A fetus needs the equivalent of 2 apples a day worth of extra calories. Don’t use pregnancy as an excuse to pig out or you will get fat.
  • Sleep, rest, nap and lie down a lot.
  • Don’t buy anything new except maybe a car seat.
  • Talk to your baby. It can hear you.
  • I didn’t feel any love for it until I was 6 or 7 months pregnant. I even wondered if I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I didn’t. The hormones kick in.
  • You don’t have to be maternal to be a mom. I don’t even like kids but I sure do love my kid.
  • You don’t get to choose when you have them and you don’t get to chose when you lose them. Be aware of that.
  • You will still always be you.
  • It ‘s not bad at all. There is shit that is hard, but that shit never feels like it is hard because of them.
  • Welcome to the club.

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Thank you to all the moms out there who gave me advice!  Any more advice, both good and bad, given and received, please post in the comments for all of us below.