My Creative Process (our creative process)

Nothing.

I feel like shit.

There is nothing.

I do other things, less important things, things I could give or take. Like washing the floor, or doing my taxes. But I feel like these tasks are time-wasting. I notice there are a lot of assholes around.

I feel fat. I stop wanting to have sex. Actually, it’s hard to be touched in general.

I am able to communicate with people on a superficial level but in the back of my head there is a rock that is hot and heavy and hurts. Phrases like “ I suck” “I’m worthless” I am deluding myself” and “I have nothing to offer the world” are most prevalent in the hot rock time.

There is also this persistent pressure in my gut, like a filleting knife pressed up against my ribs. It has the potential for disemboweling me at any moment so I am careful of how I twist during the day, how I move, how I get up, how I lay down. This knife-like-pressure is always there- it causes a great amount of anxiety and takes a lot of attention.  But nothing I do seems to move the blade away from my insides.

Except, of course-doing something.

But I can’t.

There is nothing to do…yet.

Or there are a million things to do and I don’t know where to start so it’s easier to deal with the knife.

This is the worst stage.

This stage lasts a while, sometimes a month or a year- depending on the scope of my dreams and goals. I have no idea if and when it will ever end.

And then…. quietly, without any warning, usually while lying in bed at night trying to fall asleep I feel a twitch, a little glimmer or sentence or imagining. I think “I’ll hold on to that and write it down tomorrow” but I cannot. I can’t sleep. It’s like a big hand is lifting me and rolling me around in bed and it takes on the colour of purple and red fire and I think “Oh fuck it” and I get up and I write.

I get the little bugger baby seed down.

It feels good. I feel open. My chest feels like it has more room to take a breath in and I fall asleep.

I read what I wrote in the morning and it’s not as good as it was at 1 am but having the feeling of taking action gives me something to hold onto so, with less pain and I start my day.

But now I’m really not happy. I don’t want to be doing the dishes, paying the bills, writing the grant. I DON’T WANNA!

I want to be doing what I am supposed to be doing!!!!!!

But I don’t know what that is yet? Where do I begin?

I say things to myself like “this anxiety is a close cousin to excitement.” I say “enjoy the process.” I say  “if I don’t crack this nut I WILL LOSE MY SHIT” so I start to spend more of my days trying to do less of what I have to do so there is space to find out what my innards are saying.

This period is when I’m difficult to be around. I want to give so badly but it’s still a secret to me what the gift is so I’m resentful and tight with time. I may lash out at loved ones, blaming their presence in my life as the reason I am not getting enough work complete.

In the next span of many months, the infrequent inspirations come and go, the dark voices and self-hatred also ebb and flow.

There are tiny moments of great self-pleasure and purpose.

There are mini-times of surety.

I feel like I (capital I) have less to do with the making of the thing and my real job is to create space for the creativity to sneak in and around all my bullshit. I feel like all I have to do is something, anything and the rest will unfold. The river has its twists and turns and I am in her flow.

(Looking in from the outside, I get the bulk of the work done during this stage.) This is where the flesh of the idea is slow-cooked and seasoned on a rotisserie. It’s a mess but it’s juicy. I can smell potential.

I am very grateful for these late night tastes of peace.

In this stage I am generous with my friends, I may take a shot of tequila at a dinner party. I’m really living life ya’ know. I feel good. I feel useful. I feel like I’m helping God(dess) out and doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I laugh a lot. This is my favourite time. This is what it’s all for. The making of the magical thingy.

And I may share a bit of it with someone and they don’t tell me “it’s perfect and I’m a genius” so I quit for a few days and I get black tar heart again. But I get up and I keep plugging away, not because I have an ultimate vision, not because I have any confidence but because I’m being pushed now by a force behind me…and doing something, anything at all allows me to sleep through the night. I find solace from the hot rock and twisting knife by eking out little bits of material.

It is the pure fear of innard discomfort that keeps me going through this stage, that and the invisible push…

And at some point, at a time I can never predict, this thing that’s been inside of me comes out.  It’s made.

I take this time to shine bright and be exhilarated and give everything I have.

I try my very best. Some people like it and some people don’t. Most people don’t care. I consider deeply what critics and community members think. It’s finished and it’s excellent, or just okay…but the final product isn’t the point because I did what was asked of me.

I waited and I listened and I acted. 

There is no rush of endorphins, there is no ego power drug that takes over and makes it all worthwhile. There are no dancing girls or a poofy dress. Instead, there’s a small flame and some gentle pleasure. The main peace comes in that it’s done. I followed the call. I did my job. And that makes me cry a bit.

I rest.

I evaluate.

I sleep.

This is a time where I may choose to go on vacation.

This is the time I feel shiny and sexy and calm. I eat a lot of salads and chips.

And then… one night soon…a few months later as I’m lying in bed, I cannot sleep. I feel like shit because there is nothing.

There is absolutely nothing.

And it begins again…

Okay gang.

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It’s shine bright exhilaration time…enjoy this sweet moment with me.

 

Comments 8

  1. This was great. You have snuck inside my head and recorded my life. Thank you. Bookmarking this now. To remind me to get it out and create a me where the good creative stuff can sneak out through all my BS.

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  2. Wow. Exactly. And I’ve heard from more people than I can count that I’m the most positive person they’ve ever met. My husband and close friends know better. In fact, I’m going to show this to my husband, because you articulate so much better than I have been able to explain what it feels like to be me. Thanks for being honest and encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.

  3. The wonderful brutal truth comes out! Thanks for calming me down with knowing that it’s not just me. Loved this!

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  4. So
    New to you
    New to your writing

    Liked it
    Loved it
    Been there
    Got the t shirt
    Out the other fucking side

    Being in London I’m 8 hours ahead of you but… As a ‘get outta your own god damn way’ & a “shit, I’m lost, been trying to find myself” kinda Coach I’m always up for a cuppa tea & a good old human chit chat!

    I’m always up at 5am, which is when your show starts so I’ve been listening to you whilst brushing my teeth!

    Thanks doll & stop searching & striving, it’s exhausting! ?

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