Advice- The Worst Time Of My Life

This questioner didn’t call it The Worst Time Of Her Life but I identified it as such, only because I remember mine so well. So I tell you all about the worst time in my life and then I tell her what to expect next… ps. I think this may be the perfect blend of the best advice I’ve ever …

A Rant for Everyone Who Feels Rage.

Dear Motherfucker. Ya you. Why do I start off so aggressive? Because it seems to be the only thing that gets your attention. I’ve tried talking. For years. I plan it out in my head first, so I don’t offend you. I write it down. I make my points clearly and I remember to see your point of view too. …

Death Niceties (how to be cool with a friend who's grieving)

* This is a re-post to honor the life of my mother on the anniversary of her death 3 years ago. I feel you mama. Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a …

Death Niceties (how to be cool with a friend who’s grieving)

* This is a re-post to honor the life of my mother on the anniversary of her death 3 years ago. I feel you mama. Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a …

Go Back To Bed

It’s a dreary day outside. Go back to bed. Alan Kurdi is dead. Go back to bed. Your eyes sting from not enough sleep. Go back to bed. You have beautiful children. You’ll never have children. You long for a mate. You take them for granted. Go back to bed. You have a complicated relationship with your mother. You’re 20 …

Damn it, I'm racist.

Okay, so to set the stage for this post. This was a week ago when the white woman Rachel Dolezal was caught for lying about being black. Mega. And then all the facebook feeds get filled with commentary and opinions. But what I kept seeing was people asking the same question. If a transgendered person can change their gender why can’t someone be …

Damn it, I’m racist.

Okay, so to set the stage for this post. This was a week ago when the white woman Rachel Dolezal was caught for lying about being black. Mega. And then all the facebook feeds get filled with commentary and opinions. But what I kept seeing was people asking the same question. If a transgendered person can change their gender why can’t someone be …

I have big feelings.

My inner life is an ocean with strong tides that sometimes pull me out to sea. My shaman told me this. He didn’t use the ocean analogy but he said “you have big feelings, bigger than most people. This is hard for you. If most people’s feelings were like this ————————————————. Yours are like this _______/————-\_______/————\________/———–\_______/” He also didn’t use …

What Happens When You Die?

Where Do You Go When You Die? And I don’t mean into the ground. I know this is an unanswerable question and I know there is probably no fulfilling answer. I also know that wars are waged over this conversation but I’d still like to hear your beliefs. Because I believe it’s not really about the truth, it’s more about …

Addiction Rules Everything

Everything I don’t want in my life is here because of my addictions. To me addiction means: Covering up pain with “stuff.”  “Stuff” includes: Eating Food Buying Anything Taking Prescription Drugs Taking Illegal Drugs Drinking Alcohol Having Sex Being in unhealthy relationships The telephone Sugar Working out Yoga Facebook Smoking Work/Volunteering Being busy all the time Being a super mom. This …