Death Niceties (how to be cool with a friend who's grieving)

* This is a re-post to honor the life of my mother on the anniversary of her death 3 years ago. I feel you mama. Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a …

Death Niceties (how to be cool with a friend who’s grieving)

* This is a re-post to honor the life of my mother on the anniversary of her death 3 years ago. I feel you mama. Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a …

Go Back To Bed

It’s a dreary day outside. Go back to bed. Alan Kurdi is dead. Go back to bed. Your eyes sting from not enough sleep. Go back to bed. You have beautiful children. You’ll never have children. You long for a mate. You take them for granted. Go back to bed. You have a complicated relationship with your mother. You’re 20 …

None of this makes us crazy

Some mornings I wake up feeling really grounded and by the afternoon I’m overwhelmed and wanna run for the hills. This doesn’t make me crazy. One night I’ll have a dream and wake up crying and this affects my productivity for the rest of the day. This doesn’t make me crazy. I sometimes use drugs, prescription medication, food, exercises and popular meditation techniques …

Damn it, I'm racist.

Okay, so to set the stage for this post. This was a week ago when the white woman Rachel Dolezal was caught for lying about being black. Mega. And then all the facebook feeds get filled with commentary and opinions. But what I kept seeing was people asking the same question. If a transgendered person can change their gender why can’t someone be …

Damn it, I’m racist.

Okay, so to set the stage for this post. This was a week ago when the white woman Rachel Dolezal was caught for lying about being black. Mega. And then all the facebook feeds get filled with commentary and opinions. But what I kept seeing was people asking the same question. If a transgendered person can change their gender why can’t someone be …

I have big feelings.

My inner life is an ocean with strong tides that sometimes pull me out to sea. My shaman told me this. He didn’t use the ocean analogy but he said “you have big feelings, bigger than most people. This is hard for you. If most people’s feelings were like this ————————————————. Yours are like this _______/————-\_______/————\________/———–\_______/” He also didn’t use …

What Happens When You Die?

Where Do You Go When You Die? And I don’t mean into the ground. I know this is an unanswerable question and I know there is probably no fulfilling answer. I also know that wars are waged over this conversation but I’d still like to hear your beliefs. Because I believe it’s not really about the truth, it’s more about …

Addiction Rules Everything

Everything I don’t want in my life is here because of my addictions. To me addiction means: Covering up pain with “stuff.”  “Stuff” includes: Eating Food Buying Anything Taking Prescription Drugs Taking Illegal Drugs Drinking Alcohol Having Sex Being in unhealthy relationships The telephone Sugar Working out Yoga Facebook Smoking Work/Volunteering Being busy all the time Being a super mom. This …

In the thick of Motherload

“Mom, why are you making a play about being a mom, when you should be home BEING a mom?!“- Jade I’m about to open my biggest show to date. It’s called Motherload and it’s about the dark and hilarious side of contemporary parenting. I started working on writing grants for this show while my mother was dying in the next …