Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.

I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do list. There is such a sweet pleasure in letting my head hit the pillow and knowing that I worked today. I made something. …

Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?

Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came up to me and said “you are very smart!” He said it with a look of sort of amazement on his face and …

Advice: What if this is all there is?

Question: I’m 55,  was a stay-at-home mom, raised 4 amazing children, married for 18 years, divorced now for 13 years, had a boyfriend for a few years but that ended, working a job the past 9 years that I use to love but now not so much, working on resume/cover letter garbage which leaves me feel like shit for my lack …

Advice: I’m terrified to write, how do I begin?

Question: I’m scared to write. No, I am debilitated when it comes to writing. People tell me I can write, that I’m a writer, bla fucking bla, but I can’t fucking write. I have my first paid freelancing gig and i’m distracting myself by binge dating.   Something has to happen because right now I’m sitting in a corner office with …

Advice: I'm terrified to write, how do I begin?

Question: I’m scared to write. No, I am debilitated when it comes to writing. People tell me I can write, that I’m a writer, bla fucking bla, but I can’t fucking write. I have my first paid freelancing gig and i’m distracting myself by binge dating.   Something has to happen because right now I’m sitting in a corner office with …

Advice: Should I Quit Everything and Become a Yoga Teacher?

Question: I just turned 41 and am at something of a life impasse. I have written one book which did pretty well and am now grappling with the ‘difficult second album’ syndrome of book two. Book one was literary (poetry), but since I have gotten deeper into yoga, my spiritual life has opened up in a way that feels incompatible …

Being definitive is bad (yes, this is an ironic statement)

I’ve been getting triggered lately by all the experts giving me their definitive advice on the www. I don’t mind it when scientists say “this molecule does this thing…” because technically they may be right (for the moment), but when spiritual writers and practitioners tell me:  I want to make more money. I don’t want to procrastinate. I need to …

Is She Obsessed or Open Hearted?

Advice Column Question: I am obsessed with my friend. I know obsess has a negative connotation, but I can’t think of a different one. I’m just endlessly fascinated with this friend and feel grateful and encouraged and happier about existing when I am with them. I’m think I am overwhelming them with my love and friendship and that makes me …

Advice: Can You Imagine Getting More Than You Think You Deserve?

Question: I don’t even really know where to begin. I’m having a really hard time letting go of an ex-boyfriend. I feel so broken. When my ex and I started “dating”, we sort of “decided” on each other really quickly, fell really hard and fast, and then tried to scramble and put all the the pieces together.  We told ourselves …