Burn Out Is Radical

The telltale signs of burn-out are: 1. You can’t do more than one thing at a time. If you try to do more than one thing at a time you start to freak out and get anxiety. 2. You are excited as hell to crawl into bed at night and it hurts to wake up to an alarm. 3. If …

A conversation about grief, loss and how best to remember.

This is an incredible question.  I brought in an expert to answer it. Question: Hi Emelia, I have become close with the mother of my friend who committed suicide last year. We have only  gotten to know each other since her son/my friend passed, and it has been a very enriching relationship, I feel really grateful for the ability to …

Advice- The Worst Time Of My Life

This questioner didn’t call it The Worst Time Of Her Life but I identified it as such, only because I remember mine so well. So I tell you all about the worst time in my life and then I tell her what to expect next… ps. I think this may be the perfect blend of the best advice I’ve ever …

Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.

I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do list. There is such a sweet pleasure in letting my head hit the pillow and knowing that I worked today. I made something. …

Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?

Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came up to me and said “you are very smart!” He said it with a look of sort of amazement on his face and …

Advice: What if this is all there is?

Question: I’m 55,  was a stay-at-home mom, raised 4 amazing children, married for 18 years, divorced now for 13 years, had a boyfriend for a few years but that ended, working a job the past 9 years that I use to love but now not so much, working on resume/cover letter garbage which leaves me feel like shit for my lack …

Advice: I'm terrified to write, how do I begin?

Question: I’m scared to write. No, I am debilitated when it comes to writing. People tell me I can write, that I’m a writer, bla fucking bla, but I can’t fucking write. I have my first paid freelancing gig and i’m distracting myself by binge dating.   Something has to happen because right now I’m sitting in a corner office with …

Advice: I’m terrified to write, how do I begin?

Question: I’m scared to write. No, I am debilitated when it comes to writing. People tell me I can write, that I’m a writer, bla fucking bla, but I can’t fucking write. I have my first paid freelancing gig and i’m distracting myself by binge dating.   Something has to happen because right now I’m sitting in a corner office with …

Advice: Should I Quit Everything and Become a Yoga Teacher?

Question: I just turned 41 and am at something of a life impasse. I have written one book which did pretty well and am now grappling with the ‘difficult second album’ syndrome of book two. Book one was literary (poetry), but since I have gotten deeper into yoga, my spiritual life has opened up in a way that feels incompatible …