Sometimes You Just Have To Get Better.

Sometimes you just have to get better. You have to grow. There is no time for therapy, or friends, or hot tubs or yoga or journaling about it. There is no space to meditate or breathe into the softness. This does not mean you are pushing or bad or hard as a rock. Or maybe you are. But that doesn’t …

My Mother’s Final Gift

I walked into her room and saw her folding blankets again. In my moms decline into brain cancer what was left of her mind- loved to fold things. The nurses said all the dying woman did it. It’s what they did with their lives, folding laundry, keeping busy hands, so it makes sense it would bring them comfort in their …

My Mother's Final Gift

I walked into her room and saw her folding blankets again. In my moms decline into brain cancer what was left of her mind- loved to fold things. The nurses said all the dying woman did it. It’s what they did with their lives, folding laundry, keeping busy hands, so it makes sense it would bring them comfort in their …

A “how to” on how to help your fucked up friend.

First let’s clarify what constitutes a fucked up friend: They are heartbroken. A loved one has died. They were in an accident. They just had a baby. They just had a major life transition that they didn’t want or plan on (fire, renoviction, etc) There are ill. *Now, I’m not putting mental illness, addiction and clinical depression into the mix …

A "how to" on how to help your fucked up friend.

First let’s clarify what constitutes a fucked up friend: They are heartbroken. A loved one has died. They were in an accident. They just had a baby. They just had a major life transition that they didn’t want or plan on (fire, renoviction, etc) There are ill. *Now, I’m not putting mental illness, addiction and clinical depression into the mix …

Why am I sometimes sad and why do I revel in it?

You know when you feel like shit but you are embarrassed to talk about it because you are “supposed” to be postive and thankful for your blessed life. You know when it’s dark out and you’re shivering and the people you rely on aren’t around, or if they are it’s not enough so you feel mighty sorry for youself. You …

A thankful pause

It’s my mamas’s 70th birthday today. I’m so thankful I got her as my mom. This is my favourite picture ever taken of us together. Her gentleness holding me strong in my grumpiness. Trying to be Good is taking a pause offline to respect and grieve the gracious woman who made me. Judy Joy Symington, rest knowing your job here …

Birth and Death

My mother is lying in bed dying while my newborn son and I are next to her breastfeeding. Sounds pretty made for TV movie epic doesn’t it? What is remarkable to me is how identical the two processes are. Birth and death. And not in the ways you think, not like transformation and beginning and endings and circle of life …

Snippets from a family vacation

We have only been driving away for 6 minutes and we have to pull over and turn into a fruit and garden centre.  Someone’s diarrhea is acting up…