Female Friends Fighting is Feminist

  When women fight with me I know that means we’re tight. I don’t mean get nasty or are always on my ass. I don’t mean say mean shit or complaining all the time. I don’t mean have higher than hell expectations they demand me to reach. I don’t mean being generally rude and snotty. I don’t mean flying off …

How to Deal with Cruelty

I’ve been encountering a lot of cruel people lately. Not physically cruel, that’s a whole other conversation with a whole other set of rules, but emotionally cruel people, out to hurt for hurtings sake. And my impulse is to retaliate. To protect myself and my family and my community from this cruel behavior. And it’s my right to do so, …

My job is not to talk about the light.

I woke up this morning and I did the first thing I do every morning…I reached for my phone. And I saw in my inbox that there was another post about light. I contemplated not reading it, but like chips or pot, I find it really hard to say no if it’s in front of me so I read the …

How to be rich when you feel poor.

1.When you wake up, after you do your “have to’s “kids to school, face washed, peed etc) before email, putting on pants or one quick facebook browse, get on the floor and move your body for 20 minutes. Set a timer. Yoga, stretching, rolling around, pretend yer a snake for all I care – just move your damn body before …

Just 15 minutes a day of being nice to myself…

Put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your kids. Oprah calls it ‘radical self care.” It’s not about “treating yo’self.” It’s about survival. …and if you’re in need of some inspiration. This is what ME TIME could look like.

I’m Titrating Right Now.

Titrate: Verb: To continuously measure and adjust the balance of a physiological function.  One of the perks of having my own radio show is that I get to talk to whomever I want about whatever I want. This means most of my interviews are about emotions, drug-use and dirty jokes. I’ve always been fascinated with “going there”. You know? Going …

My Creative Process

Nothing.

I feel like shit about this.

There is nothing.

I do other things, less important things, things I could give or take.

I feel like every task is time-wasting. I notice there are a lot of assholes around. I feel fat. I stop wanting to have sex…

Burn Out Is Radical

The telltale signs of burn-out are: 1. You can’t do more than one thing at a time. If you try to do more than one thing at a time you start to freak out and get anxiety. 2. You are excited as hell to crawl into bed at night and it hurts to wake up to an alarm. 3. If …

The Work of Pleasure

This is the third year I’ve travelled to the Big Island of Hawaii to facilitate a woman’s retreat. As I write this I’m sitting in a sports bra with some sweaty shorts on, underneath a big fan. We’re on “time off” this afternoon. Some of the women have gone to the beach to swim,  one is napping in a hammock …