Advice: Do I like being depressed?

8 min. I can’t help but get all emotional. Also don’t “massage your feet.” That’s the lamest advice I’ve ever given.  Notes on the video above: 1. Stop. Be kind to the depression. He’s talking to you. I lie down every day with my hand on my heart. or stone on my chest and breathe and let it in. Like a …

White People Can Change the World

Yes. That title was click bait. But it’s true. I’ve had nothing to say this past week. There’s nothing a privileged white person can say right now. It hasn’t been my time to speak. I’ve been listening, learning, copying down messages that make me uncomfortable in my seat of power and if you are curious, I’m pasting them below. I’m …

People are Complicated

This morning, I was sitting in my car in a rainstorm checking the ole fb and this woman popped up. A hard working, not yet uber famous, but probably making a decent living musician. An inspiration to many of us out there busting it. Play it loud with headphones on. And then I found out she was a Trump supporter; active …

The Nightmare Of Quitting Pot.

I smoke pot. Well I did. I quit recently. I didn’t smoke a lot but I did it every night. Like one little hoot a night before bed with my hubby. I don’t drink (except a shot of tequila once a year at a party, and then I rip up the dance floor like a fucking monster queen) but on …

#blacklivesmatter #whitesarescared

I’ve been soaking up as much social media and essays and articles about #blacklivesmatter as I can. I want to be informed. I want to be useful. And then I read this: Malcolm X was approached by a white woman at a rally and she asked him “what can I do?” and he said “nothing” and turned back towards the …

I’m Titrating Right Now.

Titrate: Verb: To continuously measure and adjust the balance of a physiological function.  One of the perks of having my own radio show is that I get to talk to whomever I want about whatever I want. This means most of my interviews are about emotions, drug-use and dirty jokes. I’ve always been fascinated with “going there”. You know? Going …

Burn Out Is Radical

The telltale signs of burn-out are: 1. You can’t do more than one thing at a time. If you try to do more than one thing at a time you start to freak out and get anxiety. 2. You are excited as hell to crawl into bed at night and it hurts to wake up to an alarm. 3. If …

All the single ladies

My best friend came over this afternoon. She started crying. She is 35. She is beautiful. She is witty and adventurous and has a super hot body. She has a self-created career. She loves bike rides and tropical vacations and reggae music and nude sunbathing. She is single.

Love the Bitch

For 15 years I’ve been working collectively making theatre; and 80% of the time I’m in the room I can’t shut up. I’m loud, opinionated and passionate. I care a lot. I’m sure it’s annoying as fuck. I tell my collaborators when I think they’re off the mark. I fight for my ideas. I’m fine getting into conflict and hashing …

A conversation about grief, loss and how best to remember.

This is an incredible question.  I brought in an expert to answer it. Question: Hi Emelia, I have become close with the mother of my friend who committed suicide last year. We have only  gotten to know each other since her son/my friend passed, and it has been a very enriching relationship, I feel really grateful for the ability to …