Advice: #1 Do I have to want sex? #2 Can I hate my body?

2 questions this week. Short and Sweet. Question #1: Hi Emelia, In your gut- do you believe sex is pointless (unless you’re trying to make a person)?  Ugh. should we be using the energy for something else? -Please leave me unidentified. Dear Unidentified, This question hits me right in the nerve. Because, aren’t I supposed to say No! No, sex isn’t pointless. …

Ask Emelia: 2 women have the same problem…

(#1) Hi Emelia, I have felt totally unfulfilled for the past two years. I fell in love with my fiance in January 2013 and I saw parts of him that seemed overbearing, smothering at first and I wanted to run in the opposite direction, screaming “danger, danger!”… And then in April that same year I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. …

Advice: Should I have kids?

Dear Emelia, I’m 39 years old. I live a good life. I teach yoga. I have a good relationship with my sweet man. As I’m about to soon enter my 40th year, anxiety and big questions consume me. Do I have a child or not? I feel pressured by time and culture to have a kid. My mother has been …

Advice: Are We Doomed?

Dear Emelia,  I am Canadian, married to a Frenchman and we have been living in France for three years.  I am six months pregnant I can speak a bit of French but do not like speaking with him because his tone and his whole being seems to change along with the language.   I have no real deal friends here and …

Should I tell the truth?

QUESTION: About six months ago my husband left. We had battled it out for almost a year before he finally left; the stress of building a house, running a business, working away from each other in the winter & trying to get pregnant was too much. I had threatened to “quit us” a couple of times in the months preceding …

Advice: Do Not Retract

Advice: She wanted to know if she should stay or leave her marriage. Answer: It’s 4 minutes. I think you’ll agree with me.

Advice: How Do I Start Living My Dream?

She asked: How do I start writing full time? My answer: That’s the wrong question to be asking. Here’s the audio version now. 5 min. Have a listen. Probably one of my best. Toot toot. My mom had this posted on our fridge growing up (only it was in black and white as color printing had not yet been invented) …

Advice: Am I a flake or am I free spirited?

This is an audio advice column. Plug in, download and listen up. Its’ around 5 min. I don’t post the transcripts cause it’s art yo. And I love it. “I wish I was black so that my friends would call me sister” is the first joke I ever remember writing. I still think it’s excellent.

Advice: Should I Ask Him To Marry Me?

QUESTION: I am partners with an amazing human being who I want to ask to marry me. It doesn’t phase me to go against the grain to ask a man to marry me (well maybe a little) but more than that I am not a 100% sure if this is me being crazy or wise. Not because I am putting …

Advice: What has Meaning?

Question: Thanks for your words on the cult of abundance.  I would love to hear your opinion regarding the cult of MEANING, finding meaning in every experience. We live in our heads with worry for the imagined future and obsessing about the past while assigning meaning to every experience, feeling, thought, star movement, planet retro grading, spending patterns, temperature change, …