ADVICE: I Love My BF but I Don’t Want To Have Sex With My BF.

*This post is full of dirty words and descriptions of my sex life so family…proceed with caution. QUESTION: I love my boyfriend. He’s the kind and sexy and playful and powerful, the best boyfriend I’ve ever had in fact- but sometimes I don’t want to have sex with him, like really don’t- at all. I don’t want to break up …

Radical Inconvenience.

Remember when Oprah coined the term “Radical Self-Care” in the early ‘90’s? She never explained what “Radical Self Care” actually really meant though, in action. A bubble bath. A holiday? A mani/pedi? Telling yourself you are getting 1 massage a month Telling yourself you are getting 1 massage a month no. matter. what.  And yoga 3 x, no 2x a …

Advice: Do I like being depressed?

8 min. I can’t help but get all emotional. Also don’t “massage your feet.” That’s the lamest advice I’ve ever given.  Notes on the video above: 1. Stop. Be kind to the depression. He’s talking to you. I lie down every day with my hand on my heart. or stone on my chest and breathe and let it in. Like a …

Just 15 minutes a day of being nice to myself…

Put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your kids. Oprah calls it ‘radical self care.” It’s not about “treating yo’self.” It’s about survival. …and if you’re in need of some inspiration. This is what ME TIME could look like.

Advice- The Worst Time Of My Life

This questioner didn’t call it The Worst Time Of Her Life but I identified it as such, only because I remember mine so well. So I tell you all about the worst time in my life and then I tell her what to expect next… ps. I think this may be the perfect blend of the best advice I’ve ever …

Working Out After Kids (pods and vids of my summer progress)

ADVICE COLUMN: I was recently asked “how do I lose weight? Should I lose weight? Is my husband a dick for not being into my recent weight gain? I decided to take these questions on through a live podcast and videos of my recent attempt at weight loss. In this post you will listen to a 5 min podcast of …

Advice: Intuition vs Fear (is this guy stalking me or am I just a prude?)

Hi Emelia, I have been “hanging out” with a male coworker (I’m female) for about a year. It started with me just wanted to learn guitar but he made it clear early on that he likes me as more than a friend; I didn’t feel the same and told him so but he didn’t seem to get the hint. Me being confrontation-phobic and not …

Advice: How do I leave?

Dear Emelia, I am a musician living in Bali as a single mother making a living performing the traditional music of the country. I have totally immersed myself in the culture here, just me and my daughter, living off the sweat of my gigs. I have a great nanny and have set our life up in a very healthy way. I am …