ADVICE: I Love My BF but I Don’t Want To Have Sex With My BF.

*This post is full of dirty words and descriptions of my sex life so family…proceed with caution. QUESTION: I love my boyfriend. He’s the kind and sexy and playful and powerful, the best boyfriend I’ve ever had in fact- but sometimes I don’t want to have sex with him, like really don’t- at all. I don’t want to break up …

Remembering The Why In The First Place- Your Singular Purpose.

Maybe you don’t know it yet, or you don’t think you don’t know it yet? I look back on 20 years of creating art and now I see this web, this perfectly constructed road that lead me exactly to right now- writing to you. And I’m not done. I have a vision I hold that is all at once terrifying …

My job is not to talk about the light.

I woke up this morning and I did the first thing I do every morning…I reached for my phone. And I saw in my inbox that there was another post about light. I contemplated not reading it, but like chips or pot, I find it really hard to say no if it’s in front of me so I read the …

Advice: Do I like being depressed?

8 min. I can’t help but get all emotional. Also don’t “massage your feet.” That’s the lamest advice I’ve ever given.  Notes on the video above: 1. Stop. Be kind to the depression. He’s talking to you. I lie down every day with my hand on my heart. or stone on my chest and breathe and let it in. Like a …

Burn Out Is Radical

The telltale signs of burn-out are: 1. You can’t do more than one thing at a time. If you try to do more than one thing at a time you start to freak out and get anxiety. 2. You are excited as hell to crawl into bed at night and it hurts to wake up to an alarm. 3. If …

A conversation about grief, loss and how best to remember.

This is an incredible question.  I brought in an expert to answer it. Question: Hi Emelia, I have become close with the mother of my friend who committed suicide last year. We have only  gotten to know each other since her son/my friend passed, and it has been a very enriching relationship, I feel really grateful for the ability to …

Advice: How do I hate Christmas less?

Advice Column Question: How do I hate Christmas less?  Ya know? Answer: Yep. I know. But I don’t think you hate Christmas. I think you are grieving. I call it the un-nameable Christmas sadness and it shows itself in many forms. One of my highlighted bad memories of Christmas was looking out of our living room window on Christmas morning at …

Advice- The Worst Time Of My Life

This questioner didn’t call it The Worst Time Of Her Life but I identified it as such, only because I remember mine so well. So I tell you all about the worst time in my life and then I tell her what to expect next… ps. I think this may be the perfect blend of the best advice I’ve ever …

Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.

I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do list. There is such a sweet pleasure in letting my head hit the pillow and knowing that I worked today. I made something. …

Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?

Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came up to me and said “you are very smart!” He said it with a look of sort of amazement on his face and …