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laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”
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Advice: Should I have kids?

Dear Emelia, I'm 39 years old. I live a good life. I teach yoga. I have a good relationship with my sweet man. As I'm about to soon enter my 40th year, anxiety and big questions consume me. Do I have a child or not? I feel pressured by time and culture to have a kid. My mother has been harking on me about this for most of my life. My man and I are ethereal free-spirits freaked out about all the time, focus, energy and money that ends up being poured into having a child. “I like my freedom”, he says to me, “and having a child limits your freedom”. Neither of us have flat-out said no to having … [Read More...]

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A-Bun-Dance

I've been thinking a lot about abundance lately. I've been trying to change my negative associations with the word because for me "abundance" has become synonymous with the word gluttony. The more, more more feeling that leaves us all longing for what we don't have. And I want to see what I do have as enough. I look around my home and I see abundance everywhere but not necessarily where I'd like it to be.  In the piles of clothes that go unfolded. In the reams of dishes in the sink and then also in the way my son dances in the living room and just won't stop for anybody. Going … [Read More...]

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Advice: Are We Doomed?

Dear Emelia,  I am Canadian, married to a Frenchman and we have been living in France for three years.  I am six months pregnant I can speak a bit of French but do not like speaking with him because his tone and his whole being seems to change along with the language.   I have no real deal friends here and no sense of community.  My heart is really heavy. I am simply asking if this is working? Our relationship I mean.  Like really working?   Last weekend was lovely and it led into a good week of smiles and kindness and hugs and looking forward to seeing one another at the end of the … [Read More...]

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Give me something to do before I freak the eff out. Too late.

Seriously people. I'm freaking out here. It's 4pm. I've done nothing all day (except make the bed, have a snack and unfriend a racist on facebook). For some reason the babysitter came over unplanned (while the boy was still sleeping) so she hung out upstairs while I got my "rightous indignation facebook block" on and... ...out of the way and read a bit more about Jian. It's crack, this news story, and I'm loving it. I'm not sure why? I guess it's that perfect itch to scratch when you watch someone you always knew was a bit creepy fall from his dark castle. Then the boy woke up and the … [Read More...]

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Should I tell the truth?

QUESTION: About six months ago my husband left. We had battled it out for almost a year before he finally left; the stress of building a house, running a business, working away from each other in the winter & trying to get pregnant was too much. I had threatened to "quit us" a couple of times in the months preceding him finally moving out & calling it done. Since then, he has been inconsistent with contact, negligent in bill paying, and has left me with a dog, cat, brand new house (massive debt) & a co-owned business to take care of.  To add insult to injury, somewhere within the … [Read More...]

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Why aren’t we more disruptive?

I notice it. Racism. Sexism. Homophobia. Subtle and not so subtle forms of it all around me, sometimes directed at me; or wanting to include me. Our next door neighbor takes our bottles out of the recycling before “they” get to them because she doesn’t like “them” coming around. She tries to engage me in conversation about “them” and why “they” are problematic… ..and I want to say “excuse me but what you’re saying right now is racist” and take back the bottles and walk away. At a dinner party recently the host got drunk and started making jokes about how all women are … [Read More...]

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Advice: How Do I Start Living My Dream?

She asked: How do I start writing full time? My answer: That's the wrong question to be asking. Here's the audio version now. 5 min. Have a listen. Probably one of my best. Toot toot. My mom had this posted on our fridge growing up (only it was in black and white as color printing had not yet been invented)  I think this image is what formed my identity. Not necessarily a good thing... … [Read More...]

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Death Niceties

Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a holiday, birthday or anniversary is coming up (which in Canada it is.) It’s still hard, but if you keep these rules in mind you’ll feel less like a shithead. 1. Be direct. You can say things like “that’s fucking horrible” and “I’m really, really sorry” and “When did she die?” You can say whatever comes out of your mouth. Your friend wants to talk about it, or at least wants to be allowed to talk … [Read More...]

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You’re Famous.

Queen Beyonce coined the term “Bootylicious,” Remember that? It’s a word but it’s also an adjective; a description of a look and a feeling. It was added to the dictionary. The woman made a goddamned word. Who else? That bud beer commercial coined the phrase “wassup? Remember that? We all said that. “Wazzzzuuuuup!” A new familial greeting was coined. And throwback- we all copied Mike Myers in Wayne’s World when he coined “Noooooooooot.” Fuck that was funny. And then Borat brought it back. Well I’m coining a “term” today. “Famous” It can be used if your friend … [Read More...]

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Emelia Symington Fedy Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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