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outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”
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Muscle It For Love

Lately friends have been asking me, "How are you doing it? Working full time with a 6 week old?" "Are you superhuman?" "I could never do what you are doing." And it feels good to be recognized as strong and competent but I thought I'd let you in on the reality of how an artist actually manages kids, a home, a dog, a partner and mounting her biggest show to date... 1. Babysitters. I pay $30 an hour for childcare for my 2 kids. This means I forfeit my entire wage. 2. My house smells like shit (we're not sure whose) and we don't care. 3. We have a moth infestation and we don't have … [Read More...]

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In the thick of Motherload

"Mom, why are you making a play about being a mom, when you should be home BEING a mom?!"- Jade I'm about to open my biggest show to date. It's called Motherload and it's about the dark and hilarious side of contemporary parenting. I started working on writing grants for this show while my mother was dying in the next room, just so I could place my eyes on the horizon.  I continued working on finding funding for the production as my new baby slept on my chest. I gathered a group of the greatest actressses I could ask for and they worked for free if I covered their childcare. Not once … [Read More...]

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Letters to Celebrities I Never Sent: #1 David Sedaris

March 9, 2012 / Edited Oct 15, 2013 / Re-edited Dec 31, 2014 Dear David, Here's the story. I was out for dinner over 2 years ago with really good friends at this amazing Cuban restaurant in Toronto. It's the kind that looks like the sweet little living room of the cook himself and it’s one of those special nights where we all feel hilarious and in love with each other. Then at 11pm, two of my friend’s acquaintances showed up unannounced. They were shit-faced drunk and they plopped themselves down at our table. She starts trying to order when the kitchen was already closed, and … [Read More...]

I’m not wishing you a Happy New Year!

...instead, I’ll wish you softness when you're unhappy, and the breath to navagate through it.  I'll also wish for you to know that you are surrounded by people who probably have many of the same fears and sadness as you do. Even if social media seems to be sure they are doing much better. Because they traveled more this year. And they made more money. And their quotes seem more inspired. And if you are alone right now, I wish you to know that you won’t be for much longer. If you don’t want to be.  And if you are broken hearted right now I wish you to know that it won’t last … [Read More...]

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The First Post I Ever Wrote

This is the first post I ever wrote for tryingtobegood. I called it Tina Fey Is My Hero. As we head into 2015 I thought I'd share a few of my beginnings with you. Here ya go!This Tina Fey book is all at once inspiring me and killing me. She is so much funnier than me when she writes about her insecurities that all the comedic iconic women in her life are funnier than her. This is not me trying to write a joke. This is just the truth. She also seems to be able to work harder and sleep less than me. Like 2 hours a night cause she’s writing jokes for 30 Rock, come on- there is no way I could get … [Read More...]

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Advice: How do I hate Christmas less?

Question: Advice: How do I hate Christmas less?  Ya know?   Answer: Yep. I know. But I don’t think you hate Christmas. I think you are grieving. I call it the un-nameable Christmas sadness and it shows itself in many forms. One of my highlighted bad memories of Christmas was looking out of our living room window on Christmas morning at the snow falling softly on my Dad’s car as he slept inside it. The presents had not been touched. We were all too sad and worried about what we did to hurt his feelings to unwrap any gifts yet. I think I was about 11. My brother was … [Read More...]

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Advice: Should I have kids?

Dear Emelia, I'm 39 years old. I live a good life. I teach yoga. I have a good relationship with my sweet man. As I'm about to soon enter my 40th year, anxiety and big questions consume me. Do I have a child or not? I feel pressured by time and culture to have a kid. My mother has been harking on me about this for most of my life. My man and I are ethereal free-spirits freaked out about all the time, focus, energy and money that ends up being poured into having a child. “I like my freedom”, he says to me, “and having a child limits your freedom”. Neither of us have flat-out said no to having … [Read More...]

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A-Bun-Dance

I've been thinking a lot about abundance lately. I've been trying to change my negative associations with the word because for me "abundance" has become synonymous with the word gluttony. The more, more more feeling that leaves us all longing for what we don't have. And I want to see what I do have as enough. I look around my home and I see abundance everywhere but not necessarily where I'd like it to be.  In the piles of clothes that go unfolded. In the reams of dishes in the sink and then also in the way my son dances in the living room and just won't stop for anybody. Going … [Read More...]

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Advice: Are We Doomed?

Dear Emelia,  I am Canadian, married to a Frenchman and we have been living in France for three years.  I am six months pregnant I can speak a bit of French but do not like speaking with him because his tone and his whole being seems to change along with the language.   I have no real deal friends here and no sense of community.  My heart is really heavy. I am simply asking if this is working? Our relationship I mean.  Like really working?   Last weekend was lovely and it led into a good week of smiles and kindness and hugs and looking forward to seeing one another at the end of the … [Read More...]

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Give me something to do before I freak the eff out. Too late.

Seriously people. I'm freaking out here. It's 4pm. I've done nothing all day (except make the bed, have a snack and unfriend a racist on facebook). For some reason the babysitter came over unplanned (while the boy was still sleeping) so she hung out upstairs while I got my "rightous indignation facebook block" on and... ...out of the way and read a bit more about Jian. It's crack, this news story, and I'm loving it. I'm not sure why? I guess it's that perfect itch to scratch when you watch someone you always knew was a bit creepy fall from his dark castle. Then the boy woke up and the … [Read More...]

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Emelia Symington Fedy Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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