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F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”
disruption1

Why aren’t we more disruptive?

I notice it. Racism. Sexism. Homophobia. Subtle and not so subtle forms of it all around me, sometimes directed at me; or wanting to include me. Our next door neighbor takes our bottles out of the recycling before “they” get to them because she doesn’t like “them” coming around. She tries to engage me in conversation about “them” and why “they” are problematic… ..and I want to say “excuse me but what you’re saying right now is racist” and take back the bottles and walk away. At a dinner party recently the host got drunk and started making jokes about how all women are … [Read More...]

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Advice: How Do I Start Living My Dream?

She asked: How do I start writing full time? My answer: That's the wrong question to be asking. Here's the audio version now. 5 min. Have a listen. Probably one of my best. Toot toot. My mom had this posted on our fridge growing up (only it was in black and white as color printing had not yet been invented)  I think this image is what formed my identity. Not necessarily a good thing... … [Read More...]

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Death Niceties

Chances are a close friend of yours has experienced the death of a loved one. Chances are you were kinda dumb about it. Here are some points to support you with your friends pain; especially if a holiday, birthday or anniversary is coming up (which in Canada it is.) It’s still hard, but if you keep these rules in mind you’ll feel less like a shithead. 1. Be direct. You can say things like “that’s fucking horrible” and “I’m really, really sorry” and “When did she die?” You can say whatever comes out of your mouth. Your friend wants to talk about it, or at least wants to be allowed to talk … [Read More...]

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You’re Famous.

Queen Beyonce coined the term “Bootylicious,” Remember that? It’s a word but it’s also an adjective; a description of a look and a feeling. It was added to the dictionary. The woman made a goddamned word. Who else? That bud beer commercial coined the phrase “wassup? Remember that? We all said that. “Wazzzzuuuuup!” A new familial greeting was coined. And throwback- we all copied Mike Myers in Wayne’s World when he coined “Noooooooooot.” Fuck that was funny. And then Borat brought it back. Well I’m coining a “term” today. “Famous” It can be used if your friend … [Read More...]

Sisterhood_10

Advice: Am I a flake or am I free spirited?

This is an audio advice column. Plug in, download and listen up. Its' around 5 min. I don't post the transcripts cause it's art yo. And I love it. "I wish I was black so that my friends would call me sister" is the first joke I ever remember writing. I still think it's excellent. … [Read More...]

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This is Parenthood (the baby and toddler phase)

Imagine considering this a totally reasonable arrangement. Imagine thinking 6 am is a fucking awesome sleep in. Now, imagine a thin metal rod piercing your tits. Imagine that rod making many small holes in your nipples so that yeast grows inside them and now your friends call you “sugar tits” but you don’t care because you are too busy scratching. Imagine saying to your partner “hey honey come check out the color of my douche.” And also imagine sleep becoming way sexier than a hand job. Imagine telling your partner you have to be at work at 10 am when really you have to … [Read More...]

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Advice: Should I Ask Him To Marry Me?

QUESTION: I am partners with an amazing human being who I want to ask to marry me. It doesn't phase me to go against the grain to ask a man to marry me (well maybe a little) but more than that I am not a 100% sure if this is me being crazy or wise. Not because I am putting myself in a vulnerable position, but because I may be asking someone to be something they are not- just because I want it. ANSWER:First off, why don'y you read how I almost fucked up my proposal. So, with this backstory in place- I want to tell you right off the bat that I’m a raging feminist. I see no issue in a woman … [Read More...]

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How to be Ideal. Seriously. I got this.

When taking the dog for a walk, don’t take your phone with you- just go for a walk. Use really fancy face cream. I like rose face oil myself. Put it on every single night. Especially when you feel like shit. Suck a dick, eat a pussy or touch yourself monthly. Crude. I know. But still true. Change your sheets at least every 2 weeks. Go away by yourself once a year for a minimum of 4 days. No buts. I prefer 10 days. Watch Louie. All of them. Hang out. Like, once a week, just "hang out" with friends, or be by yourself...just "hanging out." Can you imagine? Don’t worry about … [Read More...]

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Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.

I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do list. There is such a sweet pleasure in letting my head hit the pillow and knowing that I worked today. I made something. I lived. I’m worthy of this life. But sometimes as I’m falling asleep, the question enters my mind, aren’t you still worthy if you did absolutely nothing today? Aren’t you worthy just being you? So when I’m told that “I need to float down the river of … [Read More...]

Emelia is… Trying to be Good

Emelia Symington Fedy Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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