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Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”
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How to be Ideal. Seriously. I got this.

When taking the dog for a walk, don’t take your phone with you- just go for a walk. Use really fancy face cream. I like rose face oil myself. Put it on every single night. Especially when you feel like shit. Suck a dick, eat a pussy or touch yourself monthly. Crude. I know. But still true. Change your sheets at least every 2 weeks. Go away by yourself once a year for a minimum of 4 days. No buts. I prefer 10 days. Watch Louie. All of them. Hang out. Like, once a week, just "hang out" with friends, or be by yourself...just "hanging out." Can you imagine? Don’t worry about … [Read More...]

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Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.

I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do list. There is such a sweet pleasure in letting my head hit the pillow and knowing that I worked today. I made something. I lived. I’m worthy of this life. But sometimes as I’m falling asleep, the question enters my mind, aren’t you still worthy if you did absolutely nothing today? Aren’t you worthy just being you? So when I’m told that “I need to float down the river of … [Read More...]

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Woman is Obsessed with Hopping Club

I went home to our annual fall fair. I'm not a ride girl. Last year on the ferris wheel I had to get them to stop it and let me off as it was the scariest thing I'd ever done. I was crying and sweating and frozen in fear, my hands gripping the bar like white claws. Not even joking. My husband thought it was hilarious. I kept repeating "This is worse than childbirth" over and over which was weird because I hadn't given birth yet and now I can say that no, the ferris wheel is not worse than childbirth- but I'd compare it to being cornered in a dark alley with a guy holding a machete. Truly … [Read More...]

Advice: What has Meaning?

Question: Thanks for your words on the cult of abundance.  I would love to hear your opinion regarding the cult of MEANING, finding meaning in every experience. We live in our heads with worry for the imagined future and obsessing about the past while assigning meaning to every experience, feeling, thought, star movement, planet retro grading, spending patterns, temperature change, and on and on. We create systems of power and governing and morality and yoga and then pretend these systems have natural laws.  So what is real? Why truly has meaning?    Answer: Ohhhhh sheeeet. High 5 (Borat … [Read More...]

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This is a Secret Message

You'll know if this message meant for you if you feel a catch in your throat when you read it. It's an important one to and I'd recommend doing it within 3 months. If this message is not for you, I have another one instead. Be kind to the Fuck Head. They're precious and their love is not unconditional. It's not. They're golden and good. And it's actually a miracle you found them. They are making your dreams happen. They're standing right beside all your bullshit. They're your saviour. *If this isn't happening in your relationship please see secret message #1. … [Read More...]

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Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?

Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came up to me and said “you are very smart!” He said it with a look of sort of amazement on his face and I believe he meant it as a compliment but I had a hard time imagining him saying the same thing to a 50-year-old man. Like the vast majority of the people I work with, I am smart but I frequently get this comment and it always pisses me off. I feel perhaps I am not exuding the kind of authority … [Read More...]

Sometimes your very best is fucking hilarious. —TryingtobeGood.com

Why does it feel so good to be bad?

My best friend gave me the challenge of trying my very best while drawing a picture. This is the final product. Honestly, I spent fifteen minutes of concentrated effort. I focused. I'm quite proud of how it turned out. Every time I look at it I laugh because I can't quite believe I'm this bad at drawing. Sometimes your very best is fucking hilarious.   … [Read More...]

Women

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Love the Bitch

For 15 years I’ve been working collectively making theatre; and 80% of the time I’m in the room I can’t shut up. I’m bossy, loud, opinionated and passionate. Basically I fucking care; a lot. I’m sure it’s annoying as fuck. I tell my collaborators when I think they're off the mark. I fight for my ideas. I’m fine getting into conflict and hashing out shit. I also like being challenged and stood up to. But it’s exhausting. Being the one in the room who knows the best way to do everything. So, about half way through every creative process I’m in I start feeling shame. I … [Read More...]

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A Horribly Beautiful Love Story

I lay on my bed and stare out the window sometimes. From my view I get the perfect shot of two pigeons sitting on the roof across from me; preening each other for hours. I assume they are lovers, the way they're so attentive and as the weeks go on the story in my mind grows. His name is Bryan and she's Debby and they had been together since childhood. They were from the other side of town but a few years ago, the black sheep that they are, they decided to leave their friends and family and fly over to this up and coming neighborhood full of immigrant families, artists and new parents. They … [Read More...]

Emelia is… Trying to be Good

Emelia Symington Fedy Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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