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best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”
turbulentocean

I have big feelings.

My inner life is an ocean with strong tides that sometimes pull me out to sea.             My shaman told me this. He didn’t use the ocean analogy but he said “you have big feelings, bigger than most people. This is hard for you. If most people’s feelings were like this ------------------------------------------------. Yours are like this _______/-------------\_______/------------\________/-----------\_______/" He also didn’t use the computer key art analogy either but I wanted you to get the picture. When I had my first child I … [Read More...]

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If She Says She Doesn’t Like Mother’s Day She’s Lying.

I’ve been reading a lot of articles this week by moms who say that Mother's Day is a Hallmark holiday and they don’t support it. They say that they don’t need flowers to be reminded that they are loved and being a mom is no different than being anyone else so there is no need to be celebrated. I'm calling bullshit. I call this such a major case of bullshit that if we were in a pasture we’d all be drowning in it right now. We say we don’t like Mother’s Day because we are scared. We are scared of being let down and forgotten about and unimportant. We are also embarrassed to assume … [Read More...]

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What Happens When You Die?

Where Do You Go When You Die? And I don't mean into the ground. I know this is an unanswerable question and I know there is probably no fulfilling answer. I also know that wars are waged over this conversation but I'd still like to hear your beliefs. Because I believe it's not really about the truth, it's more about what rings truest to you that brings peace inside. And I'd like some of that right now. Please give me your wisdom and findings in the comments below. Let's make this post for everyone. I want to hear it all. While we are waiting for the myriad of truths to come in … [Read More...]

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My Birthday. Same Ask Every Year. It’s Easy.

Every year on my birthday I put out the same ask. If you read my stuff weekly, if it's ever made you laugh out loud or feel better about being miserable, if you've passed me on- then this is the week I'm asking for your love. You can COPY and PASTE the following links below, attach them to your email and send them to your friends telling them that there's a hilarious and heartfelt lady who wants more friends to speak her mind to. SIGN UP YOUR BUDS  (I love new friends) BECOME A PATRON (gimme gimme) My big birthday request is that everyone tells one more buddy to subscribe. HERE I don't … [Read More...]

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Becoming Something

I’m turning 37 soon. I love getting older. The older I get the cooler I am. Seriously. My only issue this year is with the sound of the age. 37. Thiiirrrty seeeeven. It sounds like a dirty little gnome screeching in my ear. Thirrrty seeevennnnssss. Other than the sound, everything else about 37 I’m looking forward to. I was recently reading an article about a man who died at age 37 and what didn’t occur to me was to think “what a heartbreak for a man to die so young.” Nope. His age registered as a bit early to me, but fell in the column of “too bad” rather than the column of … [Read More...]

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I want to be famous.

I want to be famous. There I said it. Not famous like Reese Witherspoon. More like Cheryl Strayed famous. I'll still parent my kids. I'll buy my own groceries. But people will give me lots of credit. I won't ever have to prove myself in any way. My coolness will be assumed and I'll get noticed a fair bit. I want to do what I do the best I can do it and I want a whole shit ton of people to like it. I also want to be styled. And I’d like to be cooked for and be made to exercise every day by a friend I pay to boss me around. I wouldn’t mind someone folding my clothes … [Read More...]

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A Letter From All The Women To All The Men

To All The Men, The first thing we want to say to all the men out there is that we love you. We’re not blaming you or attacking you. We have the best men surrounding us, brothers, best friends, men who have fathered our children and taught us more than anyone else has. We feel safe and respected and taken care of by you. And because of this we’re going to ask you to listen to us. You’ve heard it all before, we know, but this is a plea. Yesterday a woman in our city was raped and tortured in her own home by a stranger.  And our first thought is how can this happen? Seriously! How. Can. This. … [Read More...]

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Advice: #1 Do I have to want sex? #2 Can I hate my body?

2 questions this week. Short and Sweet. Question #1: Hi Emelia, In your gut- do you believe sex is pointless (unless you're trying to make a person)?  Ugh. should we be using the energy for something else? -Please leave me unidentified. Dear Unidentified, This question hits me right in the nerve. Because, aren't I supposed to say No! No, sex isn't pointless. It's important, to bond, to be vulnerable, to release tension etc. But hang on a sec... First off, I'm a total prude when talking about s **. It's pretty much the only thing I'm private about.  Weird hey? Like when I'm watching … [Read More...]

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Addiction Rules Everything

Everything I don’t want in my life is here because of my addictions. To me addiction means: Covering up pain with “stuff.”  “Stuff” includes: Eating Food Buying Anything Taking Prescription Drugs Taking Illegal Drugs Drinking Alcohol Having Sex Being in unhealthy relationships The telephone Sugar Working out Yoga Facebook Smoking Work/Volunteering Being busy all the time Being a super mom. This is some of the “stuff” I’ve been addicted to. I say “I” so you don’t automatically say “that’s not me” but really I mean “we” because you may choose alcohol and your friend may choose … [Read More...]

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Ask Emelia: 2 women have the same problem…

(#1) Hi Emelia, I have felt totally unfulfilled for the past two years. I fell in love with my fiance in January 2013 and I saw parts of him that seemed overbearing, smothering at first and I wanted to run in the opposite direction, screaming "danger, danger!"... And then in April that same year I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. It was horrible, not holistic and earthy and meditatively serene like my first pregnancy. He disgusted me and turned me on in the same moment and all kinds of crazy would transpire when we were mad or scared or insecure. He feels safe yet he irritates the shit … [Read More...]

Emelia is… Trying to be Good

Emelia Symington Fedy Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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