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best blog ever

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

— A Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:22:29+00:00

— A Fan

“Best.Blog.Ever.”

Danielle LaPorte

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

Trying to be Good
2014-07-02T01:09:10+00:00

— Danielle LaPorte, Author of The Desire Map

“Brilliant, brash and wickedly wise.”

Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

— Om Town Yoga

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:04:16+00:00

— Om Town Yoga

“Your blog made me laugh, cry and pee my pants. Pretty much the trifecta of excellence.”

recorded my life

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:55+00:00

— Fan

“You must have snuck inside my head and recorded my life.”

funnier than Tina Fey

“You're funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:14:19+00:00

— Sammy’s Sweet Treasures

“You’re funnier than Tina Fey SERIOUSLY.”

The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

— The Single Crush

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:20:13+00:00

— The Single Crush

“Hi, this is a marriage proposal, do you wanna get married?”

saying it so I can feel it

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:28:19+00:00

— Anon

“Thank you for saying it so I can feel it.”

Singing the messy truth

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

— Dr. Jane Hansen

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:00+00:00

— Dr. Jane Hansen

“Singing the messy truth from the rooftops.”

world needs it

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:17:03+00:00

— Fan

“Keep writing your great insights. This world needs it; desperately.”

Chela Davison

"She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious."

-Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:13:37+00:00

— Chela Davision @ www.cheladavison.com

“She is a social acupuncturist and damn does she ever poke around in the best ways. Brilliant and hilarious.” -Chela Davison (Integral Coaching)

Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

— Recovering Yogi

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:49+00:00

— Recovering Yogi

“If you write a memoir, I will be the first to read it!”

you know what I’m thinking

“How do you know exactly what I'm thinking?”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:24:05+00:00

— Fan

“How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

laughed, cried, shared

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:18:40+00:00

— Fan

“I laughed, I cried, I shared!”

outrageously honest

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:15:09+00:00

— Blogger

“So outrageously honest and resonant.”

very intense ab workout

“I have not laughed this hard in so long...thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:27:38+00:00

— Blogger

“I have not laughed this hard in so long…thank you for a very intense ab workout. You are brilliant.”

striptease and dropkick

“I'm always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you're going to striptease and dropkick.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:26:26+00:00

— Blogger

“I’m always on the edge of my keyboard, awaiting the NEXT topic you’re going to striptease and dropkick.”

brave enough to be honest

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

— Blogger

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:29:25+00:00

— Blogger

“Thanks for encouraging me to be brave enough to be honest.”

laugh out loud

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:25:46+00:00

— Anon

“Laugh out loud awesomeness!!!!!!!”

in love with you

“I'm in love with you.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:16:24+00:00

— Fan

“I’m in love with you.”

kiss your face

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

— Anon

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:23:21+00:00

— Anon

“I want to kiss you directly on the face.”

best thing on the internet

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

— Fan

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:03:26+00:00

— Fan

“This is the best thing on the Internet.”

The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

— The Buffy Project

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:21:54+00:00

— The Buffy Project

“I cannot believe how cool your writing is. Such insight and ferocious bravery and honesty.”

F*ckin’ A

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”

— Mama Entrepreneur

Trying to be Good
2014-07-25T01:07:03+00:00

— Mama Entrepreneur

“I read a lot of blogs. Yours is tops, easily. F*ckin’ A.”
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Working Out After Kids (pods and vids of my summer progress)

ADVICE COLUMN: I was recently asked "how do I lose weight? Should I lose weight? Is my husband a dick for not being into my recent weight gain? I decided to take these questions on through a live podcast and videos of my recent attempt at weight loss. In this post you will listen to a 5 min podcast of me giving this woman advice on her weight losss options. You can also check out these video's of me trying to lose weight this summer. Click on them and have a laugh. It's mostly fun but definitely serious. Losing weight sucks. I thought she deserved a whole bunch of … [Read More...]

None of this makes us crazy

Some mornings I wake up feeling really grounded and by the afternoon I’m overwhelmed and wanna run for the hills. This doesn’t make me crazy. One night I'll have a dream and wake up crying and this affects my productivity for the rest of the day. This doesn’t make me crazy. I sometimes use drugs, prescription medication, food, exercises and popular meditation techniques to try and regulate my moods. This doesn’t make me crazy. I’ll be driving the car and a thought will enter in and smash me into grief. I'll cry and cry and cry from the sadness of it all. This doesn't make … [Read More...]

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The Rules: When To Make Things.

This is your job- make something today. And… You don’t get paid enough for it to be hard work so only make things for pleasure’s sake. And… You think art is an ice cream cone?! Creation has nothing to do with pleasure. Discipline. Effort. Commitment. Go. And... If you think you're not working hard enough raise your hand. All the people with raised hands should stop working so hard. And... Like the poster on my mom’s fridge said: And... Like an intuitive once told me: “you have to give up, let it all get messy. Stop trying to plan everything. I see wet spaghetti … [Read More...]

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I was a stay-at-home-mom for 2 weeks and this is what happened.

I have a two-year-old and a seven-month-old. Since they were 3 months old I have spent no more than four days in a row with them. I’m neither ashamed of this or bragging. It's my choice. I love my job. And I’m not cut out to be a stay-at-home parent. But this summer my husband got a job on a farm doing design work for a theatre show and it only made sense that we come along. So we’re spending a month living together in a small cabin on 90 acres in the country. It’s mostly glorious but sometimes not and this is what I discovered about all the stay-at-home parents out there. 1. You … [Read More...]

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Advice: Intuition vs Fear (is this guy stalking me or am I just a prude?)

Hi Emelia, I have been "hanging out" with a male coworker (I'm female) for about a year. It started with me just wanted to learn guitar but he made it clear early on that he likes me as more than a friend; I didn't feel the same and told him so but he didn’t seem to get the hint. Me being confrontation-phobic and not confident in what I’m feeling, ever (I struggle with chronic anxiety) I kept hanging out with him. Like, almost every day. After getting to know him better, I started to have deeper feelings and we tried dating for a while. It felt like dating my … [Read More...]

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Damn it, I’m racist.

Okay, so to set the stage for this post. This was a week ago when the white woman Rachel Dolezal was caught for lying about being black. Mega. And then all the facebook feeds get filled with commentary and opinions. But what I kept seeing was people asking the same question. If a transgendered person can change their gender why can't someone be transracial? Gender is fluid, so why isn't race? So I asked it. I got some hate, I got schooled, but fuck, someone's gotta ask the dumb questions so the rest of us can understand why this woman was being eviscerated … [Read More...]

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Advice: How do I leave?

Dear Emelia, I am a musician living in Bali as a single mother making a living performing the traditional music of the country. I have totally immersed myself in the culture here, just me and my daughter, living off the sweat of my gigs. I have a great nanny and have set our life up in a very healthy way. I am proud of myself. I am even self-producing an album of my original stuff (my ultimate dream) from the money I make performing. I have had a string of boyfriends but this current one is a particular doozy. He is 38 years old  and cannot support himself financially, has STILL not finished … [Read More...]

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I have big feelings.

My inner life is an ocean with strong tides that sometimes pull me out to sea. My shaman told me this. He didn’t use the ocean analogy but he said “you have big feelings, bigger than most people. This is hard for you. If most people’s feelings were like this ------------------------------------------------. Yours are like this _______/-------------\_______/------------\________/-----------\_______/" He also didn’t use the computer key art analogy either but I wanted you to get the picture. When I had my first child I decided that the feelings I was feeling were too much to bear … [Read More...]

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If She Says She Doesn’t Like Mother’s Day She’s Lying.

I’ve been reading a lot of articles this week by moms who say that Mother's Day is a Hallmark holiday and they don’t support it. They say that they don’t need flowers to be reminded that they are loved and being a mom is no different than being anyone else so there is no need to be celebrated. I'm calling bullshit. I call this such a major case of bullshit that if we were in a pasture we’d all be drowning in it right now. We say we don’t like Mother’s Day because we are scared. We are scared of being let down and forgotten about and unimportant. We are also embarrassed to assume … [Read More...]

Emelia is… Trying to be Good

Emelia Symington Fedy
Trying to be Good shines light in dark places. Through writing, live storytelling, workshops, retreats, and an advice column Emelia facilitates getting comfortable with the most un-comfortable parts of ourselves. The entire gritty and sparkly point is to celebrate all of ourselves, especially the fucked up bits.  
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